Representative appearances

• Nature, Nurture, and Neurodiversity w/ Dr. Jeff Karp (Season 1 Finale)

  one of the tools I've been using a lot recently is what I refer to as the pendulum Life Style essentially or you know pendulum Theory which is to really picture things on a pendulum and so almost everything right and so you can imagine sort of swinging back and forth and so let's say in the context of of breath work there's going to be times where I'm going to be really into it and it's going to be really helpful and there's going to be times when I'm not going to be into it you know and when I'm not into it I may want to go back into it but it's not about it's sort of recognizing where I am on the pendulum and then thinking what's one step I can just move it a little bit towards that direction versus trying to swing it all the way over so if I'm not doing the breath work and and and and I want to be doing it it's very easy to think okay how do I get to do it three times a day right or five times a day you know like how how can I get there but if I think about it from the perspective of okay how can I just do it today once who cares about tomorrow if I don't do it tomorrow but I just today just going to do it once even in this I'm just going to find two minutes I'm just going to do 30 seconds right like just set a super super low bar and then you do it and then you can start to bring the pendulum back to where you want it to be and it's sort of how do we do that in a way that just is really you know because otherwise what happens is we start practicing not achieving our goals because we set the goals to be so grandiose and we just never achieve it and then we get even more into the cycles of show self shame so we need to find a way to practice achieving goals and so that's why I like the pendulum is sort of like okay where am I on the pendulum and and you could do it for anything like energy for sleep for just like anything in your life like you you know like if you're all your pendulum for sleep you might find times when you're sleeping really well and sometimes you're just like exhausted and you know getting depressed I get depressed when I when I don't sleep you know like just my mental state just starts to decline really fast and so when I tune into that it's like okay what's the one step okay maybe I can just not look at my screen 30 minutes before bed or maybe I can you know put on some soft music before I go to bed or maybe you know one of the things I've been doing actually one of the tools that works incredibly well for me is I visualize myself standing as a tiny creature like a tiny version of myself standing on the back of creatures in nature so for example like I'll stand on the back of like a bumblebee right and as I'm my head's on the pillow I'm like lying there because otherwise my brain's ruminating it's going all over the place what the emails that I forgot to send the people who haven't responded to me the deadlines that I I'm not close to hit you know all these things I'm thinking about relationship issues whatever it is and so when I think about standing on the back of a bee and then I'm activating all my senses and I'm like okay well what would it feel like on my feet bare feet standing on the back of a bee right and I sort of like visual like I'm sensing that and like what would it be like to go into the flower and come out and another one and feel the wind from the wings and you know just like the visuals and the hearing and the touch and like the sensations it just be unbelievable like the buzz sound right like you'd just be going in and out and it would going on and off and so when I start doing that it requires a little bit of energy to sort of think about that and that is in a way it's kind of almost meditative because then I stop ruminating I'm focused on this bee and I fall fall asleep really quickly it works pretty much every time I've tried it