Representative appearances

• Nature, Nurture, and Neurodiversity w/ Dr. Jeff Karp (Season 1 Finale)

  one example is there's a tool press pause and you know I think we all can sort of appreciate that pausing can be good for us but the challenge is how do we actually do it and and that's one of the challenges that I faced a lot is you know I've gotten so much advice from reading or from you know podcasts and things like that but then it's like what's the process that I can try right because a lot of times you get like advice but there's no process like okay pausing is really good meditation is really good but how do you actually engage it how do you embrace it how do you do it in a meaningful way and one of the ways that that I do that is so let's say you know often what I did kind of early on in my career is I would have these backtack meetings right and i'get to the end of the day and I'd feel like oh you know I've done so much work but there's something wasn't feeling right and I I was sort of like I felt like I was missing things like there were things like all these meetings I had and all these conversations they seemed so rich but I come away from them and just like be like oh they said so many important things but I I don't remember like I there were things I just forgot or you know like and and that would just really bother me and so what I did was I started to create a pause in between meetings like 10 minutes or 15 minutes you know and you can do this by scheduling instead of scheduling hour meetings you can schedule 45 minute meetings right maybe it goes to 50 but then you have like a 10-minute break and in that time you know I don't do text messaging or emails or anything I just either close my eyes or just go for a walk and just let and I think what ends up happening is that our brains actually need time to process information and experiences we need to so you know there's a lot that goes into our subconscious mind that needs to kind of swirl around our brains in order to go into the conscious mind and for us to sort of frame it and place it you know so we can recall it later and connect it to to other things and what I started to realize is that when I actually did those pauses I would I would remember I'd be like oh my gosh someone I met like two three months ago said this it's very similar or you know synchronizes with what that person I just met with said maybe we should all get together you know and then I would set up that meeting and we'd get together and it would lead to something really great and that would never have happened had I not pressed pause right and so to me it's sort of like once if you to to me the process is finding a way to pause where it connects with something that actually is Meaningful something good happens because you pause and when you do that and that happens you have this immediate appreciation for the pause and you immediately are incentivized to find other places in your life to incorporate that pause and so it's really just about like for example I do this I did this like yesterday where it was like okay I was whatever I was doing I was like okay I'm going to go on to Instagram or whatever it is and I was like okay well let me just pause and see what comes through right and I was like I don't really want to but like you know because I feel this pull of like you know social media going on and I paused and then I just sort of sat there just you know I was with the dogs and then a thought came in my mind that was really interesting you know and I wrote it down and it sort of led to something else that I did later in the day and it's like had I not paused that thought wouldn't have came through and so to me pressing pause is it's not just about pausing it's about finding a way to pause in your day just for a few moments here or there and find and and and and and connecting it with something that actually is positive for you right so it actually maybe you maybe it's just like you feel a sense of calm a sense of clarity maybe some thought comes through maybe you make a connection you wouldn't have made but sort of really tuning into that and and realizing how important it is and once you do that it becomes much more easy to incorporate in your life because you have a rationale that you know that it benefits you